Four Resources to Transform Your Life
These resources are focused on transforming your interpersonal relationships. Starting from discovering which is your basic attachment style to developing a more fulfilling love relationship and more awareness in different areas of your life.
1. Attachment Style Questionnaire
Attachment is a deep and enduring emotional bond that connects one person to another across time and space (Bowlby, 1969).
Even though our biology is designed for secure attachment, things that happened to us during our early childhood define our predominant attachment style as an adult.
The following circumstances could prevent us from developing a secure attachment style: a parent died or was sick, experiences of neglect or abuse, trauma, or medical procedures. However, a person could experience these events and regardless of that, still develop bonds of secure attachment with other people. It also depends on individual factors.
Diane Poole Heller, Ph.D., is an expert in adult attachment and trauma treatment. On her website she has included this free questionnaire which you can easily respond to find out what is your predominant attachment style:
This quiz will help you better understand your current relationships.
2. Book: Attached. The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love
This book can help you understand whom and why you are attracted as a romantic partner. Based on attachment theory and current neuroscience research, it can help you reach fulfillment in your love life.
Based on their attachment style, people develop a different view regarding:
- Intimacy and togetherness
- How to deal with conflict
- Their ability to communicate their wishes and needs
- Attitudes toward sex
- Expectations about their partner and the relationship
Written by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. Amir, M.D., is an adult, child, and adolescent psychiatrist and neuroscientist. Rachel, M.A., is a psychologist and couples therapist.
Clear, fun, and easy to read. It contains tools, questionnaires, and case studies. It’s a valuable resource for those who are starting a new relationship and people that have been in a relationship for years.
Find this book on Amazon: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help – and Keep – Love
3. Audio Course: Your Brain on Love
This is a course for creating greater intimacy and joy in your romantic relationships. Developed by Stan Tatkin, Psy
In this training, you’ll learn to identify attachment styles – patterns of intimacy that begin in the earliest years – both in yourself and in those around you.
Then Stan will guide you through proven principles and practices for building enduring security and commitment between partners, family members, and other people whom you love.
In this course you will also discover:
- The warring brain versus the
- When your brain’s threat response is getting in the way of love
- How to avoid triggering fear and help your partner feel safe and secure
- Simple gestures and words to put out emotional fires
- The power of rituals to build trust and intimacy
- How to make your relationship a
- And much more!
4. The Wheel of Awareness
This free tool was created by Dan Siegel, M.D., and clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine
Based on mindfulness practices and brain research, the Wheel of Awareness helps to expand the container of consciousness. It works on four levels: bodily sensations, sensorial perception, mental activities, and interconnection.
The Wheel of Awareness is very useful as a visual metaphor for the way the mind works. People who participated in the practice seemed to be strengthening their minds.
A strong mind helps create an experience of calm, openness, receptivity, clarity, and harmony in life. Experience it by yourself!
When you subscribe to Dan’s community you will receive a downloadable Wheel of Awareness PDF: